Poem to Margaret

Child of light
skipping down the eggshell path
of your butterfly years
yellow tendrils
skying wild behind you
swept back by your delight
a flower about to open
about to gladden the world
petal by milky petal
gather me a daisy chain
made from your joy
to wear in my winter
when the glow of now
pales to the far scent
of fragile frost
Margaret of the marigold ways
running across deep October fields
drowning me in the pollen
of your madcap years
making pain seem solace
all child and sudden wisdom
amazing me.

By Christy Brown (“My Left Foot” fame: He had cerebral palsy and the only part of his body he had control over was his left foot, which he used to write with!)

Update from Ange


Some of my recent favourites!

Message from Ange

Apologies for the group email but I just wanted to send a sign of life, let you know that all is well in Aberdeen and send through some photos of our two little people, both happy and healthy and adjusting well to life in Aberdeen. Hard to believe we’ve already been here for 2.5 months!

Leola is her usual self, learning amazing new words and ways to express herself every day and constantly making me smile. Some of her latest expressions: “Don’t worry Mummy. I know you didn’t mean to do that…” (when I accidentally got her hand stuck between high chair and table) or, said with a serious face as she sits down on her new little stool: “Mummy, I need to teach you something. This is how you do a wee …” followed by interesting facial expressions. The latest one this morning: “Mummy, I need to have a conversation with you.” Seriously, a conversation…?! She’s a more considerate and caring big sister to Zac every day. It’s amazing how much she’s already trying to help him and teach him.

Zachary is also coming on in leaps and bounds. Whereas three weeks ago he still seemed to be just a little (big) baby, today he’s a sturdy big boy, eating solids (pureed fruit), sitting up unassisted (until he slowly slumps sideways), and rolling over, tummy to back and vice versa. He also makes the cutest little sounds and loves nothing more than watching Leola, trying to catch her eye and working hard to interact with her and smile. Leola is a wizz on her iPad and Zac is already showing lots of interest in the iPad, trying to grab it and touch things on the screen when she’s watching a video or playing a game. He’s an amazingly content baby, loves to cuddle, and usually smiles with the odd piercing scream when his teeth are bothering him.

Last week, we took the train down to Edinburgh to apply for Zac’s Dutch passport, which we need for our trip to Canada coming up in a few weeks’ time. Ideally this should have been done a few weeks earlier but hopefully we still made it in time and with a bit of luck his passport will arrive 2 to 3 days before we fly.

For the rest, all is well. Tim left to go back to Ghana two weeks ago, which was a bit of a shock to the system as with both Tim and Sue gone it truly is just me, the kids and the dog. We have a “nanny” for 3 x 3/4 days a week while I’m at work and now also have a cleaner for 4 hours on Tuesdays and Thursdays, but with work being hectic, Gandalf needing walks rain or shine, and the kids not quite understanding that I’ve only got one pair of hands, it’s still quite a bit of a juggling act until we figure out a routine and build up a better local support network.

I’m forever grateful to Caroline for introducing me to the beauty of Sainsbury’s online as 90% of our groceries now get delivered here rather than me having to pack the kids in the car and shop with two little people in tow (it doesn’t work… I keep forgetting what I set out to get.)

Anyway, time to run and get a few things done before I collapse into bed. Hope this finds everyone well and happy. We miss Cape Town and are sad we haven’t yet had a chance to go down to England to visit everyone down there, but we’ll get around to it one day!

Lots of love … and, before I forget, our address and phone details:

The Wighams
26 Polmuir Road
Aberdeen
AB11 7SY
United Kingdom

Tel: +44 1224 592 7676

Scolty Hill


On Sunday 15 July we headed out of Aberdeen for the first time, and climbed Scolty Hill in Banchory. It was really enjoyable and we burned enough calories to justify a large Sunday Roast at the Bielldside Inn afterwards.

Leola is still asking why the Snow Princess was not in her Tower on top of the hill 🙂

Life begins at 40!

I have turned 40 today! It feels strange. On the one hand I feel 30 and on the other I feel 50 🙂 Talk about messed up!

One thing is for sure – I feel incredibly blessed. There are enough reference points immediately available, to remind me that being alive with all limbs attached to my body is a celebration in itself. Then I can add the fact that I am still married to the same woman and we have a daughter and a son – privilege and miracle/s respectively.

Professionally, I have found my calling and love what I do and who I work with. My work is not always easy or fun but it is immensely rewarding and most of the time I forget that I am earning a living while helping to build high performance teams where the pace is fast but good natured and the circumstances are challenging but full of camaraderie…

We have recently moved from South Africa to Scotland, Cape Town to Aberdeen to progress our careers in the Energy Sector and it feels appropriate that we’ve arrived here to take the next step as I turn 40!

I’m looking forward to reconnecting with UK based friends while Ange is a little closer to home (Europe and N America).

I’ve also just discovered crossfit and have joined the Aberdeen Box. It is the closest thing to the Lympstone Gym experience that I have found in 20 years! Mid life crisis? 100% correct 🙂

I aim to blog more in my 40s so chat soon…

Tim